Just had a sit down talk with my 14 year-old. We chatted about perspective and how perspective can so quickly change our mood or our heart towards a matter.
I’ve been absent for a while but have vowed to pick the blog back up. It always boggles my mind as to what to write about and in that instance I’m speechless and I stop. Though just tonight I had a sit down talk with my 14 year-old. We chatted about perspective and how perspective can so quickly change our mood or our heart towards a matter. As I spoke I could see his eyes begin to redden and then tears started to fall. I poked a little wondering what could have been so hurtful in my words and he looked at me and said, “Dad you were right! Everything that you just said was right”. In this moment I’m replaying what I said and he says, “when I”, he says, “say that someone else is annoying that is building myself up to believe that I’m not” and then I pause and think for a minute. Did I actually pierce through the teenage garble momentarily and speak some sense of life into this child or did I tear down the fragile pieces that held him together? As we spoke I realize that he’s got it and that I’m getting it. It is possible to get through what so often seems a maze of “I knows” and “okays” which seems to be teenage speak these days.
We spoke of how perspective can be used in so many of the cases that bothered him. Perspective can change the way that we see an annoying thing. It is the difference maker in what we feel and how we respond. It teaches us compassion where there is none. It opens our heart to see or feel things from another’s view. We have the power to change our minds and to see truth that doesn’t have to come from our own opinions. It teaches us humility and shows us how to suffer well for others. This kid blew my mind tonight and at the same time comforted me in the same sentence.
Suddenly we regroup and solidify our premise of friendship and family; in me my heart open wide at this miracle of fatherhood!
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